Four Stage Theory for Success in life!

I have seen many kind of love stories in cinema as well as in real life.. there are stories where both lovers start loving each other on first sight.. well, thats much better when you compare another couple who are in love without even seeing each other!! some love originates just because of money or car or credit card or some other such silly things.. the most important thing is 'How long they last?' an hour? a day? a week? or a month? (if you are lucky enough!!) May be they last until people find a better specimen (like better car, more money)..

so, how to choose a person whom you are planning to live your entire life? (if at all you have such plans!!).. I have thought about this for quite some time and have come up with a new four-stage theory. Though I have many other innovations and many other ideas, I want to start this first because I feel this is the most important thing in every one's life..

Stage1: The Urge:

Whenever you find a person of your opposite sex, when something inside you tells you that there is something special about that person, when you are attracted towards that person for apparently no reason you can clearly describe, when you feel that you want a stronger relationship with that person. then, you have cleared this stage..as simple as that.. people generally mistake this a 'Instant Love'..but for me, its not! This is something that urges you towards the person you like.. this might happen thousand times in your life, no problems..this is mere attraction towards someone..thats it.

Stage2: Finding Ways..

This is the most important and tricky stage. You have to find a way to get close with the person you admire, find a way to develop friendship with that person, find a way to learn the positives and negatives of that person, find a way to learn the family background of that person, find a way to judge the character of that person, find a way to make sure that you are one of the close friends to that person and find a way to make him / her comfortable and happy in your presence. I said this stage is very important because you are indirectly analysing the strengths and weaknesses of your prospective life partner...just like big companies make SWOT analysis.. After making all these studies and if you feel that you both are comfortable with each other, then you have cleared Stage 2 and you can move to much awaited and most exiting Stage 3.

Stage 3: The Real Love!

So..You have made all the feasibility analysis and now you are ready to have a go, isint it? yes..and now is the best time to propose!! I Do strongly feel that this proposal will, most of the times, end up in success. The most important thing before coming to this stage is to time it. The timing has to be absolutely perfect so that you don’t spend either too less or too much time in Stage 2. Because I have an experience where I spent more time in Stage 2 than required and paid the price for it. When Stage 3 becomes a success, then no looking back.. You can have the happiest time in your life, for which you were waiting for quite some time.. In this state you have to develop a very strong relationship with your life partner, as the next stage is the ultimate stage and both of you should be ready to expect anything.. If you have developed that attitude, then you are ready for Stage 4.

Stage 4: The taste of Success!

This is the ultimate stage for which you were working quite hard right from stage1. It’s nothing less than Marriage!! There are two ways basically .. you let your parents arrange for the ceremony or arrange it yourself (in the worst case!) that is why, it is important to get ready for this worst case when you are in stage 3. From there on you can lead a happy and wonderful life!!!

In my theory, all four stages are clearly defined and the only problem you may face is the difficulty in going from one stage to another. Stage one to stage two is the 'ice breaker' and you need guts to move from stage two to stage three. Most importantly, you have to get the timing spot on! Stage three to Stage 4 is very complex as it depends on various external factors.

To support my theory, if you had watched mani ratnam's super hit movie 'Sathiya' or 'Alaipayuthe', the hero didn’t spend time in stage 2. he jumped from stage 1 to 3 and faced the consequences.. didnt he??

So, if you follow my theory, you are 99% guaranteed to have an enjoyable and peaceful life!!!